Unfortunately, I’ve received a lot of negative feedback from those who think people with autism shouldn’t be the ones who have to adapt. While that makes sense if you’re focused only on how things *should* be, it creates additional challenges for those struggling with the world as it is. In my opinion, let’s equip our current population of autistic adults with the tools they need to succeed in an imperfect world; then we I can work on perfecting the world.
Those who have autism need every tool they can get in their toolboxes. Do I wish the world were kinder and more attuned to those who walk through life differently? You betcha. But that isn’t reality. Let’s work on these issues from both directions so we are all better prepared to create a welcoming community.
Exactly. The same is true in other areas where people are so focused on creating the ideal that they lose focus on those who are struggling with the real. Fat-shaming is a good example. Of course people shouldn’t be shamed based on the size of their bodies. But it still happens. I always worry about what will happen when the “chubby” kids who have always been told they’re perfect just as they are get to high school and run into the Mean Girls.
I have to admit that I’m uniquely blessed to be able to see things from my son’s perspective. I can’t imagine how much harder it would be for him if he didn’t know he could say the things to me that he can’t risk saying to anyone else. Gaining that perspective wasn’t exactly fun for me, but it was worth it if it helps him make his way.
This guide makes so much sense! Wish I had thought to develop it for my kiddo.
Unfortunately, I’ve received a lot of negative feedback from those who think people with autism shouldn’t be the ones who have to adapt. While that makes sense if you’re focused only on how things *should* be, it creates additional challenges for those struggling with the world as it is. In my opinion, let’s equip our current population of autistic adults with the tools they need to succeed in an imperfect world; then we I can work on perfecting the world.
Those who have autism need every tool they can get in their toolboxes. Do I wish the world were kinder and more attuned to those who walk through life differently? You betcha. But that isn’t reality. Let’s work on these issues from both directions so we are all better prepared to create a welcoming community.
Exactly. The same is true in other areas where people are so focused on creating the ideal that they lose focus on those who are struggling with the real. Fat-shaming is a good example. Of course people shouldn’t be shamed based on the size of their bodies. But it still happens. I always worry about what will happen when the “chubby” kids who have always been told they’re perfect just as they are get to high school and run into the Mean Girls.
I have to admit that I’m uniquely blessed to be able to see things from my son’s perspective. I can’t imagine how much harder it would be for him if he didn’t know he could say the things to me that he can’t risk saying to anyone else. Gaining that perspective wasn’t exactly fun for me, but it was worth it if it helps him make his way.